I NEVER KNEW...

Let’s talk to the ladies and of course to the good guys who are always kind enough to watch the ladies (sisters, wives, female friends, and mothers) back. It is no news that ladies, who suffer from in-secureness, were victims of circumstances resulting to this dreadful aftermath. This article is going to highlight several ways victims can get rid of that feeling. A lot shall be discussed to proffer ways in which friends and families can as well assist in lending a helping hand to such persons to lead a more confidently life.

How to Abolish such feeling

Now it is often said that to every effect there is surely a cause. Hence towing through a diagnostic lane might just be what you need to get over some experiences and face life with a better and more positive energy to aid productivity.  Many a times people brood over their past mistakes, near misses, lost opportunities, thereby exerting a negative energy which can only be useful for negative purpose. Well if I say nobody has a tittle of an ugly taste of life, it would be likened to the portion of the bible that proves no one is without sin. The truth is everyone does, but everyone has a peculiar reaction that in-turn affects them either positively or negatively.

These experiences apply to both genders, but my focus will be on the female gender and that is for obvious reasons common in our global society. You could say they are not the stronger vessels, but by the end of this article you sure would realize how strong a vessel the woman can be, just by placing her priorities right and doing away with every unpleasant distractions of the past. 

Now I would be outlining few traits that need to be abolished to be able to attain a life of confidence with the right objectives and placing priorities right.

A past of guilt

Guilt is a noun that denotes having committed a specified and implied offence or crime, thereby making one feel compelled to do certain things either against their wish or as a recompense for their offence.

Now, this should give us a clear understanding of the word. I want us to have a wider explanation of this word so that we would not be easily manipulated by emotions. We are either held with true guilt or the act of feeling guilty.

To the woman out there, true guilt is felt when you go contrary to your instinct, conscience, and doing things that are morally wrong. You know, as a matter of truth everyone knows when they err. We either try to conceal it or tell lies about it, but it doesn’t change the truth that the deed has been done.

Secondly the act of feeling guilt exposes you to dissatisfaction either with societal standards, personal standards or certain influences which would only exhaust you. You become worn out, ridiculed by the direction you place yourself in life. I guess you see why so long as you dwell in your ugly past, you cannot focus on a promising future.

We are mutilated by our inability to confront our past. It could be very challenging, but hey! It’s still in the past, and if you will continue to remain mute, I believe by the end of this you can be your tutor.

Let’s say I had an apartment and for good reasons I thought relocating to another apartment would give me a better chance in life with a better environment. Two key words from my analogy are the home and the environment. Guilt has a significant impact on you, and it sure is a negative one. When you revisit terrible events that arouse feeling of guilt of any form, it suddenly affects your mood so intensely that people around you can tell through your countenance, show of resentment or when you blow up unconsciously. By this I sincerely trust you know the aftermath of such an unwholesome mood. 

Back to our key words; your home should house good, inspiring, motivational thoughts, which should always occupy your home as a reminder to your ultimate purpose of being confident and trying to stay safe of insecurities. Also to remind you, how strong and determined a woman you are. Your environment should be encouraging to usher ideas that works, focus you on positive energies and also presents you with the authority to always redirect your past of guilt just where it belongs, the past! You could use the analogy to remedy the situation whenever the need arises.

A past of mistakes

It is said again that mistake is mistake if it's not repeated. Well you can only tell how contrary it works for us. For us we want to try retrieving our lost cakes. Many ladies start their regrets from thinking their birth as a girl child has been a mistake, that’s why every other things in their lives can never be right, until that ungodly mindset is corrected. Or it could be you thinking, the reason you have a punctured ear is due to some reckless life you lived and the past mistake is now hunting. An idiom is expressed thus; when a dog can make a mistake and choose the wrong tree…This is one of so many serious mistakes you could actually fill and you need to find peace from within. I do have good news; it’s simply a mistake and you can only change the status if you don’t repeat it. Get a hold of yourself, live your glorious life ahead of you and stay just fine.

Ladies with painful experiences while growing up or even grown still having more experiences, tend to speak less and act more as they are muted by their experiences of various levels and also find it challenging to live away from the pictures of these terrible pasts.

You can be a friend by letting these wonderful ladies find a good and sincere friend in you as they let you in to their world by sharing their past with you. Being such a friend means helping them create a better home and environment to leave in. Locate the strength of their womanhood in their virtues, vigor and in their values. Women are built to be strong, compassionate, complementing and most of all, live past her fears of insecurities.

#growing the girl child # raising a confident girl child…